Feb 132018
 
February Photofest

See what else is in this setting? (Unedited other than the name added)

1. Tell us two reasons why you would stay in a bad relationship.

Financial, perhaps? I don’t know, I don’t tend to stay in bad relationships

2. Do you wish your private life was kinkier?

Yes, I do. It’s kinky, but not as much as I wish

3. Tell us about your weirdest sexual experience.

I don’t know about my weirdest, that almost implies negative, and I love my sexual experience. Having sex in front of people was pretty weird, I guess. 

4. Can you have a totally hands-free orgasm?

Yes, after I’ve had multiple orgasms.

5. What tips can you give for staying hard (you personally or keeping your partner hard)?

Relax

 

Bonus: Is it okay to not celebrate Valentine’s Day even though you have a partner? Why or why not?

Absolutely it is, though Mr. Texas and I have already celebrated (he cleaned my car and took me out to an early dinner date). I’m not big into Valentine’s Day – I appreciate it far more when a partner shows he cares on other days than a day that he’s supposed to

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Jan 102018
 

Wicked WednesdayTackling the Wicked Wednesday questions: I am not still talking to my ex. Every so often we still have to text each other for managing a few things still, but that’s far and few in between. I am not having sex with him. I can’t even be friends with him – which is an oddity for me, but the emotions for him were far too strong on my end and became far too toxic once we began to separate between the two of us. He was a big part of a lot of changes that I am still being affected by, so he is often on my mind. I am absolutely positive I don’t want to see him in any shape or fashion. I’ve also learned that with time and distance that I would never want to get back with him.

That being said: he wasn’t a bad guy (excusing the brief periods of reconciliation where he was a total jerk). Our marriage was wonderful in so many ways. I don’t wish him ill; I just don’t want him back.

Waaay back when I was married, I would ask my ex-husband the TMI questions on long road trips; I used to record his answers. So since I have them actually on the blog, and he’s already given permission to post this, here they are: 

You are interviewing someone to be your lover, what are the 3 most important questions you will ask?

Will I get sex when I want it?

What three things do you expect from a relationship with a lover/spouse?

Love, love, and love.

What three things do you expect from a relationship with your child?

To love me, to love them, and to be a pain in the ass

How do you mend a broken heart?

With love, love solves all things

What is your favorite therapy (remedial treatment of mental or bodily disorder)?

Destroying stuff is pretty effective

Who in your life has an annoying habit? How do you deal with this?

My wife is ditsy and I love her anyways

In five words, describe yourself. You cannot use the following words: funny, fun, nice, kind, responsible.

Calm, awesome, caring (I forgot what he said for the other two, so I’ll insert: unmotivated and creative)

If in a long time, romantic relationship do you still flirt? How do you flirt with your significant other?

Yes, we still flirt all the time. And I don’t know how I flirt with her because I’m a crappy husband that way.

Who has been the biggest influence in your life?

My wife, she has certainly influenced my life the most.

What kinds of things really make you laugh?

Stupid humor and all the sick shit that I probably shouldn’t laugh at.

What’s your favorite place in the entire world?

Wherever I’m at. I’m pretty content wherever I am.

Who is your best friend? What do you like about him/her?

My wife; she’s pretty awesome.

What’s your biggest goal in life right now?

To not be a failure. (I complained how vague this was, and how he needs attainable goals. He said it boxes him in, and then once he achieves them he has to think of new ones and he’s too lazy for that.)

What was your family like growing up?

Standard, okay, military family

Some things get better with age, have you? What specifically has gotten better?

Yes, I’m more awesome. I don’t know why.

Are you above average or below average?

Above average.

What was the last romantic act you did for someone? Did they appreciate it?

I don’t know because I’m a shitty husband.

Think back to your very last argument, whose fault was it?

Probably mine. I’m pretty certain it was my fault.

What day of the week do you have sex most often?

I don’t know. I have sex every day of the week.

Do you use kissing as an important way to test out a new mate?

I don’t know, I don’t have the experience in this. But yes, kissing is very important.

7. What do you expect from marriage?
a. safety and solidarity and security
b. a journey towards self-fulfillment and self-actualization with a partner that ‘gets’ you

I have both in my marriage.

8. Acts of love & kindness. Which would mean more to you:
a. Taking your partner a cup of tea in bed (or receiving that cup of tea)
b. Giving or receiving a box of chocolates or flowers

a. Taking your partner a cup of tea in bed (or receiving that cup of tea)

What are some challenges related to your sex life?

My wife wants it a lot more than I do.

Is quality or quantity most important?

My wife tells me both are equally important.

How much sex is enough?

Once a week. But it’s in my contract for two times per day.

 

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Jan 022018
 

1. Did you make any resolutions at the start of 2017? If yes, how did you do at keeping them? What one thing are you still doing?

No I did not other than have a plan (not a resolution) to buy a house, which I did. I’m not personally (because I’m not handy) but Mr. Texas is working on making some spectacular changes like tearing down a building in the back and build a rope room that will look like a Japanese Tea House on the outside. He’s also built an amazing fence and gate that can suspend a person. I’m pretty lucky to be settling down with him.

2. Pick three words to describe your year 2017.

Numb, busy, surviving.

3. What was your biggest personal change in 2017?

Committing to Mr Texas and getting us a house. It was a good change but not without some challenges.

Figuring out how to cope with wanting to reach out and call my sister (and even my ex-husband) and not being able to anymore. That was rough so many times over.

4. What was totally unexpected in your 2017?

Almost never seeing The Wanderer, and finding peace with my job.

5. What was the best thing that happened to you in 2017?

My children (the best thing that happens to me every year), and making a house a home. Oh and my puppies (gosh I love my puppies). 

Mr Texas’ golden retriever boy teaching my brat girls to climb the stairs

Bonus: Did you make new year resolutions for 2018? Share a few with us? Any of them repeats from 2017?

Nope not a one. I used to make lists of things to accomplish (not necessarily for the new year) but I don’t even do that anymore.

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Oct 302017
 

1. What do you think about when you’re alone in your car?

What I need to do if it’s the beginning of the day, or the day’s events if it’s the end. I think about the past a lot, which is not always healthy.

2. What advice do you have for your previous lover?

To mature a little, be a little more self-sufficient and considerate. Most of the advice from my last relationship is to myself – as I am the only one who can control the change that needed to happen.

3. What  inspires you?

I inspired me. My sister inspired me. My children continue to push me to get up in the mornings. I am a bit lackluster still in life, but making progress towards self-motivation again.

4. If you were to get rid of one person in your life, who would it be and why?

Myself, were that an option. At least, this current self. Banning that, I’m grateful to the people in my life and wouldn’t want to get rid of anyone.

5. How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match your partners?

A constant issue in all but a few years of my life. We compromise, mixed in with some whining, begging, and tough negotiations on a case by case setting.

Bonus:  Are you single, why? Are you married, why?

I am neither single nor married. I have two partners – one of which I cohabitate and raise children with. I am not married because I’m ill suited for it.

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Sep 112017
 

1. What is your reality?

This feels like a very philosophical question, and I hate all my philosophy classes, so maybe that’s the answer? 

I hate philosophy. 

2. Will you have sex today? This week?

Odds are pretty strong I’ll have it again, maybe a couple of times more depending on scheduling around family, and already had sex today. This week is a guarantee – Mr. Texas and I have figured out crankiness ensues if sex does not happen regularly.

3. What did you hate doing this past weekend?

I hate arguing, to which it seems I do quite a bit of. Cleaning wasn’t too bad – of that I do very little of anyhow, and it’s always by choice nowadays. Yeah, I’m spoiled being a sugar mama – almost zero work around the house. 

4. What did you love doing this past weekend?

Slow dancing in the living room, binge watching a great show (something I do rarely), playing with my fur babies.

5. Which new technology have you found most helpful in your life? Which do you find to be the most annoying?

My phone has to be my lifeline somedays, though that’s not new technology. I hate any technology that requires fixing of any sort – it’s my automatic crazy button to an emotional meltdown. 

Bonus: Go do last week’s TMI questions that were posted on Friday. Great questions!

1. You are going to make a sexy weekend with your lover. Which one are you most likely to enjoy? Which of the activities is most likely to happen?
a. Cook dinner together
b. Play a sexy game
c. Take a bath together

Cooking dinner together is most likely to happen as we’ve done that several times (and dancing in between), though taking a bath together sounds divine – once I can afford to get a custom tub that will fit the two of us.

2. Will you watch porn this weekend? Alone or with someone?

Most likely I will somewhat watch porn (does Tumblr count as porn?) and alone

3. Sexy games–pick one you’d like to play? Why?
a. Naked twister or
b. Strip trivial pursuit – I’m more likely to be better at this

3. Friday night you hit happy hour, you meet a super sexy woman/man and the two of you chat and laugh the night away. She/he leans into you and says, “You’re irresistible, can I touch your pussy/cock?’ What is your answer?

Depends on my mood, and more importantly: am I ovulating (far more likely a yes then)?

4. What do you really have planned for the weekend?

I may travel this weekend, kind of leaving it up to a family member

5. Does this TMI on a Friday have you changing your weekend plans?

Nope, not a bit.

Bonus: What you like to do on the weekend but never seem to get the chance?

Again, that depends on my mood. I’d love to travel more but that’s more financial reasons, not to mention I’ve been incredibly hermit-like recently.

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Aug 222017
 

1. For you, can sex be separated from love?

Absolutely it can, actually it usually is. 
2. Can sex be separated from caring?

I don’t know about this one, but my one night stand experiences would lend credence to this. I didn’t care much for someone I had just met, but likewise I wasn’t uncaring. I wanted a mutually beneficial physical good time. 
3. Men: Does sex seem to be something that you can never get enough of and are constantly seeking or thinking about?

I do not identify as a man, but this seems to apply more directly to me than the other question for women. I used to be more like this, honestly my drive is finally calming down (some times, last night would be a poor example as I kept poor Mr. Texas up all night with my demands). 
4. Women: Is sex secondary to intimacy, physical closeness, and commitment?

Sex seems to come first for me, and the other things mentioned just sort of fall together around our sex life. Although with my friends, physical closeness may come before sex.
5. Who is more discriminating in choosing sexual partners–you or your significant other?

For Mr. Texas: for sure he is more discriminating. We actually had a discussion recently where I bemoaned the fact that he was so particular. 

I am unsure of The Wanderer’s preferences and discriminating factors. For him perhaps it’s more of a matter of time and convenience, though I think he would be somewhat discriminating.

Bonus: Who is more likely to take on additional sexual partners, you or your significant other?

As with the above, I am far more likely to take on additional partners, in comparison to my significant others, at least if I were to look at the past and present as indicators. 

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Aug 152017
 

1. Is a weird “sex face/orgasm face” a total deal-breaker?

No, I normally keep my eyes shut, but I don’t think it would be anyhow. I don’t wish to see my own orgasm face – I believe I probably look pretty ridiculous and frankly don’t give a damn to be corrected or aware of what I look like.

2. Do you enjoy having your balls played with (or playing with balls)?

I do enjoy playing with them, it’s a toy I don’t have; however I don’t think I focus too much attention on them.

3. Have you ever hooked-up with somebody based on their proximity to your smartphone location (Tinder, GRINDR, etc)?

Yes, this was how I met Mr Texas; I believe his first message to me was as impressive as “you live close”. Clearly the hook up worked well.

4. You have some free-time in the workday–blow job or intercourse? (BJ can be giving or receiving).

Either; it depends on what would make my hair more of a mess – because in this scenario it sounds like I have to go back to work.

5. How long after having sex with a new partner do you have to wait before falling asleep?

Depends: if sex includes some pain elements or a hell of a lot of orgasms it would be faster than just sex. 

Bonus: What’s the dirtiest or sexiest text message you’ve ever received?

I’m quite sure it was from my ex-husband, and I’m not going to revisit the memory nor the messages I have to check what it would have been.
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Mar 072017
 

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1. Which of these are you most often guilty of in a relationship:
a. jealousy
b. not apologizing
c. not keeping your word
d. guilt trips

2. Which of the following behaviors would annoy you most in a partner.
a. fishing for compliments by verbalizing self-doubt
b. passive-aggressive behavior
c. usually forgets important dates i.e., birthday, anniversary
d. making you feel guilty when spending time with friends

3. Consider you are looking for a mate, rank these traits in order of importance, with 1 being most important, and 7 being least important.
4___ Kindness
1___ Honesty
6___ Ambitious
3___ Confidence
2___ Reliable
7___ Assertive
5___ Sense of Humor

4. Score! You exchanged numbers with a hottie. Now you: (pick one)
a. Wait for a week, see if that person calls you first.
b. Call the next day if not sooner.
c. Call and text incessantly. Let them know they’ve made an impression.
d. You’d never call. What if you get rejected?

5. How did you handle your last relationship break up?
a. You’ve never been in a relationship before. The timing’s never been right.
b. You went out and got drunk every night, until you forgot everything.
c. You went out on a massive amount of date, even with people you knew you had no interest, making sure to date a new face every night.
d. You felt bad and cried, but bounced back in a couple of days.

Bonus: Would you take a holiday all by yourself, at the ‘spur of the moment’? Why or Why not? Where would you go?

I’m very much a spur of the moment kinda gal, and yes I would take a vacation all by myself. I might meet some very cool people, or I could just get some writing done (something I’ve done very little of recently). 

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Jan 032017
 

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1. How is your year going?

My actual last year has been utter hell, the past three days of the year 2017 have been alright – mostly sleeping off time differences and jet lag. 
2. Did you go out on NYE or have a New Year’s day celebration?

Neither, though I guess you could consider I had a New Year’s day celebration. I grabbed all the kiddos in the family and gave them their Christmas presents and presents from my travels. Mr. Texas made a beautiful dinner and we had our first family holiday celebration. It was incredibly nice, even though I was exhausted from getting off a plane the night prior. 
3. Ahh yes, those pesky New Year’s Resolutions. How did you do with your 2016 NY resolutions–did you keep them?

Many of my 2016 goals were with my husband, who then divorced me at the start of the year. So no, I didn’t meet my goals but I’m uncaring of that. I don’t have any current goals – something that it is shocking if you know me at all. I suppose I should at least work on my 101 things
4. Year 2017, are you carrying over any resolutions from 2016? What?

My 101 things list is the only thing that I will carry over. However, hopefully I’ll feel more like myself and start making goals to accomplish again. 
5. What new experiences are you planning to have or hoping to have in 2017?

I am hoping to buy a house, apply for another Master’s Degree, go on a family vacation with Mr. Texas, go on a vacation with The Wanderer, survive the year, raise confident, independent, and healthy children. 

Bonus: Did you see fireworks on New Year’s eve? (Take that anyway you want :-p )

So many, at least in my mind. After not seeing Mr. Texas for weeks, he kept me awake and flying high on orgasms off and on for 18 hours. We really only slowed down when it was time for the family dinner and present time. 

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Dec 132016
 

1. Have you ever tested someone’s love for you? What did you do? Did things turn out as you expected or hoped?

I unconsciously and consciously test love all the time. Mostly because I feel I am undeserving and if they knew me they wouldn’t love me, so I share parts that I believe to be the scariest.

For example, before Texas and I became serious again: I tested if he would love all parts of me so I shared the blog before he began his reasons for us to be committed. And then much later, I suppose I tested him by asking him to be present while I engaged in orgasm play with another person.

2. Select the answer that best fits your experience. I have dated:
a. all the wrong people
b. romantic companions that were mostly a good fit for me.
c. people that were perfect fits–loves at first sight
d. not all that much, I mainly have had a lot of long term relationships

3. Online dating: What is your success rate? What do you consider success?

Well, I met Mr Texas online. He was the first person to contact me on that particular dating site. And I met the Reservist, who was a hot hook up and may become a great friend, on a dating site. 

4. What sexual thing do you do most often that you could commit to doing everyday?

Having sex, oral sex, elements of BDSM, foreplay. These are not hard for me to commit to everyday.

5. What are your thoughts on love and lust?

That the two can be easily blurred, and that love that exists to the most degree in friendship is the hardest to let go of and the strongest. 

Bonus: Are you searching for love or are you searching for attention?

Both, I can’t feel loved without some attention. I was in a long term relationship with a man indifferent and it was the worst relationship by far. 

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