Aug 162016
 

1. Where is the most beautiful place on earth and why?

The most beautiful place is where my family is, of course. Second to that, and an actual location, may be a bit harder to define as I’ve truly not traveled much. It could be the Blue Ridge Mountains in the East Coast of USA, or the Yucatan, or in the middle of a rain forest, or the crystal clear blue waters of the ocean where all the colorful fish  and reefs are visible, or at the top of a pyramid. I also love the sight of my bed after an exhausting day, or the sight of my lover’s arms outstretched to hold me when I need it. I’ve loved all those sights.

2. How old is the most expired item in your fridge?

I’m sure it’s pretty old, because my aunt is a hoarder with refrigerator things and she is partially responsible for my filled fridge. That reminds me: I need to go through and throw out stuff instead of just putting stuff in front of.
3. What’s under your bed?

An under-bed container holding my bras. That’s it.
4. What is in your pocket?

I’m not wearing attire that supports pockets.
5. Which famous person would you like to be best-friends with? Why?

Far too many to count, though by famous person I am thinking more historical/influential/author/fictional character people.
6. There is now a line of lacy lingerie for men. Would you wear it or like to see your man in it? See here and here

Of course I would, my husband looked amazing in see-through thong, I’m sure he’d look amazing in that. And any man that is willing to put on something sexy for me is going to get positive praise from me.
Bonus: Think The Olympics. Men’s gymnastic uniforms–sexy or goofy? Discuss!

Men that participate in the Olympics tend to be damn sexy anyhow, because athletes are sexy, and having physical strengths and abilities are inspiring and awesome (and this is from someone who also finds challenged athletes sexy – I’m going to be in San Diego supporting some wonderful people soon, I hope, for The Million Dollar Challenge). So, regardless of what they are wearing, I find (age-appropriate) athletes sexy.

The fact that people take care of themselves, challenge themselves to not give up – especially after failure (which inevitably there are many opportunities for that), and have the motivation to train and improve is admirable, and it’s a quality that I find incredibly sexy. It’s also one that I wish I did more with myself nowadays and a state I hope to get back to.
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Aug 012016
 

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions were inspired by bloggers Red Cee Dee and Nero. Stay sexy!

Cheating & Masturbating

1. Your thoughts–is oral sex cheating on your partner?

It depends on the perimeters established with your partner. I’ve had relationships where it wasn’t cheating. In my current relationship: yes, it absolutely is. 
2. What is cheating to you?

Cheating is any boundary that was mutually agreed on being broken without prior consent. 
3. Does your partner know you masturbate? What do they think about that?

He does, he is the one who tells me to. So I’m assuming he likes it, that and he loves to watch me do so. We did this very hot scene that lasted far too long over a video call where I was a sweaty mess from edging myself and orgasming with my fingers, wand, and vibrator; I even made myself squirt. It was intense, and something I don’t wish to repeat as to overwhelm myself that much was really difficult. That’s why he did it, however: it was a punishment for forgetting to send him a video where masturbation was on a level I could handle.
4. Think about the best sex you’ve ever had. Why do you consider it the best, what makes it so?

I have such fantastic sex with my husband that I’m not sure I can define any as the best. I’m quite sure I’ve written all the top moments, however. Sex that would make it the best probably includes some power play, bondage, orgasm control, and a long session of teasing with both foreplay and afterplay. 
5. When you have nightmares, do you call out someone’s name?

Not that I’m aware of, nor ever been told.
6. When you’re having an orgasm, do you scream a name?

Yes, I do sometimes. I really scream out, “God” or “Jesus” quite a bit (too much Catholic School?), but occasionally I will call out his name. 

Bonus: Which best fits your usual reason for masturbating:
a. Boredom
b. Stress relief
c. Saw someone/something sexy and you need to act out a sexual fantasy
d. It’s just what I do

I’d like to add another category, as this truly is the majority of time I have ever masturbated in my life:

e. My husband told me to

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Jun 212016
 

Fill-in-blank or answer accordingly.

1. You are looking at your lover. You say, “I’d love to do some rope.”
2. In a chat with your best female friend you say, “You look really sexy when you wear your hair down .” (She always hears this from me, it’s sexy as hell.)
3. Name the one piece of lingerie you would love to see a man wear.

My ex husband wore a see through thong that I (and every one else at a kinky camp out) thought was sexy. He also had some silky boxers that looked fantastic on him. I don’t know that I overall view lingerie on men as sexy, other than appreciating the effort and for pictures. 
4. I wish I did more orgasms while on top in bed.
5. I absolutely LOVE when you kiss my oh gosh, so many things! Of course, all the obvious places first.

Bonus: Tell us your favorite sexual memory of you and your current or most recent lover.

What immediately came to mind may not be my favorite sexual memory, but it certainly is a recent memory that makes me smile.

He had me tied naked to a chair and was alternating impact pain to fingering me to pleasurable orgasms. He created such an excellent balance of the two that they began to blur together. I was sweaty, exhausted, incapable of thought outside of what he was doing to me.

And then I opened my eyes and saw his pink shirt. When I saw him wearing it earlier in the day, I really liked it on him. I still really liked it on him, but I suddenly chuckled. Here was the man who had me at his complete mercy, who had me stripped naked and spread vulnerable, who took me on a fantastic journey that included pain, who intimidated me a little (which was a good thing in moments like this) and he was still fully dressed and wearing such a happy and innocent-seeming color of pink.

I love contrasts.

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Jun 072016
 

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1. What TV show do you love to watch but are a little embarrassed to tell friends that you simply cannot miss an episode.

Lost Girl. I started watching it with my husband when it first started, and I still watch it. Overall, I don’t watch a lot of tv or movies, so it takes me forever to get through a series.

2. What website and/or magazine do you read and it’s your guilty pleasure?

Well, I’m not ashamed, but I read a lot of sex bloggers and I probably wouldn’t tell my coworkers about it, but everyone else I don’t care who knows.

3. What is the grocery store item you buy but you know you should not?

Anything chocolate, because I will eat it immediately, even if I convinced myself I bought for the kids.

4. Tell us about something you do at work that you would not want your co-workers to know that you do.

I get on Twitter during my lunch break. I have a privacy screen on my phone now just for this reason.

5. Do you have a secret stash? What is it?

I sometimes have a secret stash of chocolate, but that gets eaten pretty quickly. I have a chest of sex toys, secret from the kids but I don’t care if my friends know what the chest contains. My car has a mini vibrator shaped like lipstick – I suppose this would count as a secret stash.

Our messages are now bittersweet.

Our messages are now bittersweet, back when I made him the strip dancing video.

Bonus: What is your most embarrassing guilty pleasure?

I don’t know that I would be embarrassed by something, I suppose anal stimulation (not sex) was something that I occasionally enjoyed but would blush easily about, masturbation as well. My ex husband was excellent at knowing what made me embarrassed but I still liked it, and he would crack up whenever I blushed.

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May 312016
 
Mind, Body, Sex
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1. Who are you?

It depends on who is asking. I’m a professional, a mother, a lover, a friend, a relative, a switch (which is becoming more apparent), a rope slut, a blogger, a cute (and yet still kinky) person.

There’s a lot more too, but that’ll do it for now.

2. What is your purpose in this world?

To smile and have my dimples become contagious so that others smile too

3. What do you need to be sexually happy?

To be dominated – this is also becoming more apparent as I work my way through vanillas. Also, a larger cock – because I’m learning I’m a size queen. And for a man to not tell me no when I ovulate.

4. Have you found true love?

Yes, several times. I’m both lucky and unlucky in that regard.

5. How do you nourish yourself?

With family, food, friends,wine, laughter, sex, kink, writing, sleep, meditation, travel, sex, kink…yeah, sex and kink are important to me.

6. Do you crave more or less sex now versus 2 years ago?

Less only because I don’t have the same lover with the same potential – my sex drive is always high but I also need a readily available man.

7. Are you having sex more or less now versus 2 years ago?

More? I’m unsure. The same?

8. Who is sexier–the 20-year-old you or you right now?

The 20 year old, I’m pretty out of shape and loving food a bit too much right now, but I could get back. The thirty year old me was hotter than the twenty year old me.

Bonus: Think back to your last sexual encounter–were you emotionally present? Why or Why not?

Yes, most definitely, it was fucking amazing.

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May 182016
 

I’m a day late, but hey, better late than never.

1. Have you ever had bad sex? Why do you think it was bad?

I have bad sex, it’s bound to happen as often as I have sex. Once, when my ex husband was asleep but I didn’t realize it because he was still talking and moving, I had terrible sex on a physical level. 

Another time with my ex husband was because I was the other woman even though I was his wife. I was a dirty secret, and it really tore me up emotionally. 

And yet a third and fourth time that I can think of off the top of my head is during my slutfest week, with one guy I had no memory of and another guy that I felt desperate and used with (and not in the good way). 
2. Have you ever given bad sex? Why did that happen?

I’m sure I have, I’m certainly not an expertly skilled sex partner. Odds are I wasn’t feeling good or I was injured but I still wanted sex, however because I wasn’t up to it physically I was more passive and boring at it.
3. What instantly puts you in a bad mood?

Technology issues. If we’re talking about sex, however, I’m sure I have certain triggers, but I can’t think of any of them right this second. I’m sure my ex would be able to think of a few.
4. Have you been hurt during a sexual activity? What was the activity? How were you hurt or injured?

I’ve had the cartilage torn in one of my hips. I had my feet up closer to my ears and my ex pushed all his weight down on the back of one thigh. It had been our favorite sex position for a few months, but one time it just was too much. I’ll be injured for life on that one – it doesn’t heal. 
5. During sex, what instantly turns you off?

Age play, being called good girl, a few other things
6. Bad sex–is there really such a thing?

I think bad sex more stems from an emotional viewpoint than a physical one.

Bonus: Biting during sex–
a. do you like it?
b. do you do it?

a. I rarely like it. Mimir managed it once, and my ex managed it a few times, so it is possible. It’s just so rare that I’m still going to say no, I don’t like it.

b. Occasionally at the height of an orgasm I may, though I’m just as likely to bite myself as I am my partner. I will do it in more of the primal play, or when I’m being aggressive, but I rarely bite.

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May 102016
 

It’s the month of May AND it is time to play TMI Tuesday!

1. May 9 – Today is National Lost Sock Memorial Day. How many single socks do you have because the mate got lost?

I don’t tend to lose a lot of socks, but some are missing mates because of a hole in one and not the other. Still, I’m unsure of the number because I buy a package of socks so they all match each other every few years. 

2. This month is National Bike Month (in the USA), do you own a bike? When is the last time your rode your bike?

I own a bicycle – is that what bike we’re referring to? In that case, it’s been a few weeks since I rode my bike. 

3. Of course we all know it is Masturbation Month. How are you celebrating?

I haven’t masturbated at all this month. Just not in the mood – which isn’t unusual for me. I only masturbating every couple of months unless I’m having phone sex – which I haven’t in a couple of weeks when I stupidly did with my ex husband. 

4. As a kid, many of us would think or say, “I don’t ever want to be like my mom (or dad)!” Now that you are grown, which parent do you think you are most like.

A mixture of both, and taking on their not their not-so-stellar traits, however, fortunately I’m a much better parent than they are. 

5. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

To know that I deserve to be loved and that it can be an uncomplicated thing. 

Bonus: A lot of people do sexting. Do you ever have sexy talk with a real phone call? Do you rehearse what you are going to say or do it freestyle?

I’ve somewhat answered this, and I really have only done this with my ex husband. I absolutely suck at it and don’t rehearse it, it’s freestyle based on what he is telling me to do. 

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Apr 112016
 

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1. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

I would not necessarily like to be easily recognizably famous, but I would love to be well known (whether it’s just for blogging or writing)
2. Name three things you and your partner have in common.

Children is the biggest factor bringing us together, next up would be a high sex drive, and we’re both early morning people. 
3. Name three things you hate that your partner likes.

I hate gardening, cooking, and the word “ain’t”. Luckily, two out of three work out. However, the word “ain’t” I’m just not going to break him out of the habit even though it drives me nuts. 
4. What do you value most in a friendship?

Supportive, honest, caring communication. My friends will tell me when I’m wrong, but in the most loveliest of manners (or blunt, but then they’ll soften it somehow). 
5. What do you value most in a romantic relationship?

Common dreams and goals, a willingness to be honest and trust that listening and respect will occur.

Bonus: Finish this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … ”

A forever with…? It’s what came to my mind at the first read. Right now I’ll settle for a drink and good time. 

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Apr 052016
 

Spring has sprung! Supposedly the warmer weather makes us want to strip down and get down. Tell TMI Tuesday blog about your sexy spring.
1. Spring time we start to show more skin. Do you shave (e.g., legs, chest, pubic area, back) more in the spring than you did in the winter?

I don’t do much different ever since I always find myself naked in public because of kink events. So I’m trimmed but perhaps I’ll completely take care of the bikini line area. I shave my legs and underarms the same. 
2. Do you or would you have sex with the windows open in the spring?

Yes, absolutely, though the yellow haze of pollen might make me change my stance on this from time to time – it really just depends on how windy it is.

It would also matter if kids were playing outside nearby, though close neighbors aren’t an issue.
3. Does your body confidence improve as the weather gets warmer and you body is less covered?

No, again the kink events make sure my body confidence stays even all year long now. 
4. Does warmer weather turn you on?

My own letter: No, I hate being sweaty. I guess I more likely to take off my clothes when I’m comfortably warm or plain hot, however.

Have I mentioned a man in jeans turns me on? That’s not considered spring attire, but it’s hot to me. Though I love how a lover will mention lifting my skirt or dress that I always wear when the weather turns warm. 

5. Love, romance, and sex. For you, which of these gets better in spring?

Romance if I really had to think about it. I always have sex and it’s always pretty decent, I don’t believe that I’ve fallen in love in the spring – though I could be wrong as I’m crap at falling in love. But I did get married in the spring and that seems pretty romantic, so I’ll go with romantic. 

Oh gosh, I just thought of a bucket list item: I want to be tied on a cruise ship. *sorry, random musing of some things I do in the spring

Bonus: Thinking of a current relationship that is important to you, what “Spring cleaning” needs to be done? Meaning– Assess what serves you–what to you want to keep, what do you want to throw away?

I am liking my rope partner far more than I would have originally thought, and am so turned on by him – a great bonus. Mr Texas is being really open minded and patient with both my kink lifestyle and broken heart, so I’m trying to not freak out on his emotional attachment. 

I need to throw away my broken heart with the broken dreams that have been utterly trampled on. I need to understand where both of us are coming from and forgive us both. 

The most important relationship I need to work on is the one with myself, where I am my own best friend and cheer, motivate, forgive, love, nurture, and support myself as best I can so that I am the best me. 
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Mar 222016
 

1. If you died tomorrow, to whom would you leave all your worldly possessions?
My eldest child because they would ensure fairness and would take care of what’s important. 

2. What did you like to play as a child?

I liked to boss around my younger siblings, does that count? We played all sorts of things – I can’t pick a favorite. 

3. Have you ever gone on a rampant sex spree while depressed?

Yes, my sister calls this “slutfest”. I wrote a post that will discuss this in detail coming out next month. 

I was seriously depressed, there were pro and cons to coping this way. Now I’m just on a rampant sex spree with my guy…the usual sex all the time. 

4. Do you mind if your partner wants to have porn videos playing while the two of you are having sex?

I don’t mind as long as I’m not being replaced with it. My ex would have me watch it while he went down on me, for some reason I found that incredibly arousing. But it wasn’t replacing anybody. 

5. What is the sexiest thing you did last week?

Hot tub sex? Throw him on the bed and have my way with him? He might say wear a skirt and bend over in front of him (one of his favorites) or walk around all day by the pool in a bikini (something he loved). 

One thing I’m certain of is that he finds me attractive.

Bonus: You have to give your lover a report card about your last sexual encounter.

– What would they score? A B C D F?

A – of course I was mostly on top last encounter, so isn’t this like giving myself an A?

– What could he/she improve upon?

Fingering – he just simply hasn’t but he does so many other glorious things. 

– For what would your lover be reprimanded for doing during sex?

Being so ticklish – I never know where to touch him. 

 

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