Oct 212016
 

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Welcome to Elust 87

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #88 Start with the rules, come back November 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

On Secret Identities

Dividing lines…

Ember and Ash

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Bdsm: Our pleasures are our obligations

Southpaw

 

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Change your Cookbook: a monogamuggle’s guide to cookin’ with poly folk

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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

When Love is not enough.
the fantasy and reality of my arrival

Blogging

Shine a Light

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

When You’re Bad
How Women Use Their Sexuality As A Weapon
Dear Fans: Quit Kinkbashing

Erotic Fiction

Big Daddy
(Re)Verse
The Front to Back Challenge
Pretty
GAME OF TWO HALVES – role shift
no. 106

Erotic Non-Fiction

He’s Cumming
Washing up
Chew Toy
So many friends with benefits

Poetry

One Stroke
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Early Morning Haikus

 

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Sep 292016
 

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Welcome to Elust 86

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #86 Start with the rules, come back October 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

On Self-Objectification

Female Orgasms – Addressing Women’s Sexuality

Migraine – A Sexual Spiritual Explanation

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Can You Train a Sub to Orgasm on Command?

Rupert Campbell-Black and me…

 

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Yes I’m a Sexblogger and No I don’t care about your dick

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Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

BUTTER FOR LUBE… Salted or Unsalted?
KOTW:Static on the line
Control Queen
Well, That Didn’t Go According to Plan

Writing about Writing

A BDSM Vignette from Two Viewpoints

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Sex Negative

Erotic Fiction

The Cure
sports

Erotic Non-Fiction

CORPORAL PUNISHMENT – with a twist
Iris
A Polyquad Squad Orgasm
Beautiful Birthday Fuck
Purpose of Tasks
Do You Trust Me
The meanings of “good girl”

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

How Long Is Enough
The Virgin. Unlocking Feminine Power.
The Other Day
Communicate! Communicate! Communicate!
addressing doubts one step at a time
How D/s has taught me to stick up for myself

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Against All Odds

Poetry

Where I’m From

 

 

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Molly’s Daily Kiss writes about changing labels and it is something that I recently did change on Fetlife due to a comment someone made about me, where she called me heteroflexible on her podcast and what that means to her who will be playing with me, and I really thought about it. I always considered myself heterosexual but curious, so I suppose heteroflexible would work for me too, Molly has me thinking of how to write my own journey with this label. Like her, my husband has no jealousy issues with females but I don’t see myself pursuing a relationship with a female, so while it would be easier to have another relationship that way, I won’t (at least for now, nothing is final).

Aug 032016
 

Secret Diary of an Online Stripper writes her own hunger games and it’s filthy and delicious.

Malin James writes of alpha-males dominating alpha-females, and not only the post but the comments are incredibly thought provoking.

Exposing 40 writes about weight and how in being so body positive, light weight people are being put down in ways that I hadn’t considered. I’ve gained quite a bit of weight in being separated from my husband, and going out to events I am sometimes guilty now of thinking “we assume the primary reason a woman is loved is because she is slim we reduce her relationship with her partner to being about her body”. This post really brought home my own misguided assumptions.

Michael Knight, for DS Life, writes about struggling to write things that won’t offend and that will be accepted. When people I know read my blog, I struggle just as much. Heck, I struggled in my new place with new friends and only recently have confessed to a select few because I wrote about them; I cringed at how they may view me when they read. And I agree with Michael, I also loathe reading about another billionaire BDSM story.

Jul 012016
 

I need translations for some of my reading, but Eros writes about expelling the romantic notions of love and coming to a place of acceptance. My favorite line (translated):

If they like us once we taste them forever?

Kendra Holliday writes about how her body has changed and evolved, and the different thoughts that she’s had towards it. I was mesmerized reading it.

Girly Juice writes I’m a Good Girl, and it’s been a statement that immediately is a turn off/shut off for me during sex or a scene. Yet, she writes it so cleverly – on why it works, and when it doesn’t. It actually helped to read it because a few nights later I heard that statement towards me in a dungeon and it didn’t faze me the same.

Jun 172016
 

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Welcome to Elust #83

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #84 Start with the rules, come back July 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

London Crows and London Kisses

I am Her. She is Me.

You Say You Want to Cook for Me

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Unusual Liaison

Community. Respect. Friendship. Fucking.

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Dirty Little Secrets

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Poetry

You Know
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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

My Bed
Secular Submission
My therapy
from “hard limit” to “want”
We Measure the Nostalgia
The Cure and The Cause

Events

Smut in the 6ix – Porn Conference & Gala

Erotic Fiction

Typing Errors
La Belle Dame
Sex and chocolate
The Imprisoned of HIM-HER-THEM
The Gift
audience
Becca’s Story
Rope and Fixtures
As salty as his cum…
Dominating the Doctor

Erotic Non-Fiction

Teen Sex in Woolly Tights with 60s Beat Music
Dear Sadist: Your Cruelty Is Your Love
A male dom, the straight girl and the bi girl
Owned, Leashed, & Beaten
Jan 2015 Owned & Collared by Mistress Claire
Rinse The Days Filth Away
Power On
Keeping tally

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Formative Kink Epic Fail: “Buck Rogers”

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

If it was easy anyone could do it
What’s a service submissive?
Prescient Words

Writing About Writing

What if aspirational meant something else?

 

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Jun 022016
 

Molly’s Daily Kiss got me thinking, and every post that does that is awesome. She writes of her submission and I could relate to so much.

Sex Blog of Sorts discusses the standard plot of most sex stories and the problems within it. Her writing challenged me in a way that I’d like to explore further.

Secret Diary of an Online Stripper writes Beauty in the Rough, and it’s rough and sexy.

Jade A Waters writes a story that almost made me cry in that it sucked me with its erotica and drained me dry with its twist. Maybe too soon after my divorce to be taken by such dynamics? Regardless, a piece of writing that can create such emotions is a spectacular piece.

Mar 072016
 

1. Have you ever devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity (with breaks for eating, etc)? Was it planned or spontaneous? Any kinky fun?
Yes I have devoted an entire day to sex, it’s called every time I ovulate really badly (spontaneous). When beginning dating, these days tend to happen. Otherwise, I’ve planned them for special occasions or unusual/new sexual activities that tend to involve kinky fun.
2. Have you had sex simultaneously with two or more people in a private residence? Did you know them well or was it a setup casual encounter?

Yes I have, my ex (see, I can stop calling him my husband) and I have had threesomes, some planned or casually occurred, all of them a bit complicated except perhaps one. We knew the people involved very well.
3. Have you gone out in public wearing an anal plug or vibrator device?

No, though my ex and I were working towards this. I wouldn’t be opposed to this with the right person and the right toy, though I’d be terribly shy, self conscious, and embarrassed.
4. Have you ever fantasized about or practiced orgasm control/denial?

It’s a huge fantasy of mine and I’ve been fortunate enough that it’s been a reality on many occasions. My ex and I read each other pretty well, and my orgasms were easy for him to control.

I’d like to think that I am verbal and responsive enough during sex that any partner after a few times would be able to do this.
5. Do you like being called dirty names during sex? What names get you off the best?

I don’t really like to be called names, but to be told that my mouth would be his fuckhole was pretty hot.
Bonus: The confessional is open–confess anything you want (sexual or not).

I am incredibly excited about further exploring rope, impact, (and hopefully orgasms) with someone in the near future.

On an unrelated to that note: I’m also curious to learn who someone is considering I slept with him and don’t remember anything about him. I’ll discover this soon.
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Mar 012016
 

Malin James writes This is What I Mean when I Say I Love You, and it echoes painfully and eloquently with my current mental status.

I’m not going to lie, I thoroughly enjoy reading a male Dom’s perspective of why and how he does what he does. Michael Knight writes about why he loves to mark Molly, using a sports analogy that I’m totally going to steal.

Tasmin Flowers writes a post based on a song, Tell Me Lies, Tell Me Sweet Little Lies and it certainly was me with my husband for one desperate, regret inducing weekend.