Jul 282014
 

As you may know, from my disastrous beginnings so far, I’m the Domme in my 24/7 D/s. That means that unlike my olden days of being a carefree sub, I’m now supposed to be the big bad top. I think I’ve done pretty well so far, but I’m not proof against some teasing.

I’ve been pretty pleased with the glowing red marks I’ve produced, and my art with markings. I even take pictures for bragging rights. I’m in with some pretty heavy players though, and am starting to feel like the kid sister.

“Oh his ass is red? That’s so cute! Where’s the purple though? The varying shades of misery? There’s only a microscopic scratch left the next day? Adorable!”

Grumble. I know it’s just razzing but at one point I felt the need to point out the glaring fact that my boy is new. He has played with an amateur, bedroom only, player before me. That’s it. In fact, during this apparently coddling spank session he even asked me to switch cheeks through gritted teeth. I don’t want to break the toy, I’ve barely gotten it out of the package!

I have fun beating him. I do. The devil of it all is that also, he hasn’t done much to earn that reward yet. As you’ve seen from previous posts, I’m still dealing with a ton of behavior modification that has required very firm handling and has reaped very few rewards for him.

I still haven’t gotten the cattle prod they used for corrections. I know the verbal corrections aren’t working but I definitely don’t jump right to the physical. I don’t even own any punishment toys yet. There’s a lot to buy. It’s like adopting a puppy, a really bratty puppy who enjoys pain so you have to find something other than spankings for negative consequences. Much like that puppy, there’s tons of peripherals to buy and I need to prioritize.

Thank God he hasn’t peed on the carpet yet, although he did flood the bathroom because he didn’t realize the shower curtain needed to be IN the shower to be effective. So excuse me while I go purchase a squirt gun to blast in his face when he derps. Sigh.

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  3 Responses to “The Kid Sister of Kink”

  1. It sounds like you have quite a journey ahead of you, with your boy. I look forward to read more about this.

    Rebel xox

  2. Ah sub moulding and instruction…..you will get there, your way!!

    ~Mia~ xx

  3. I’m in with some pretty heavy players though, and am starting to feel like the kid sister. “Oh his ass is red? That’s so cute! Where’s the purple though? The varying shades of misery? There’s only a microscopic scratch left the next day? Adorable!”

    I get this (I do, I really do), but try not to think about it, because it’s silly.

    Let’s change the situation slightly…

    Instead of a dominant bragging about how much she beats/uses/hurts her sub, how long her play sessions are, how many toys she has, and how hardcore and badass she is…

    What if it were a vanilla woman talking about how long it takes her to get to orgasm, how many toys she has to use, how much effort it takes her…?

    More isn’t always better. For both parties — the dominant and the vanilla orgasm woman — the goal should be whatever makes them satisfied/happy/orgasmic… not more, harder, faster.

    Inasmuch as it’s possible, try not to hold yourself to someone else’s standard of what you’re supposed to be. You’re not them, so being them (or more like them) shouldn’t be a goal.

    Be you. 🙂

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