Analyze Your Sex-Life
1. What are your sexual strengths and weaknesses?
I am open minded and adventurous. I have a willingness to learn and am always ready. I am verbal. My weakness is definitely a hand job – I quite suck at those.
2. As a couple, what are your sexual strengths and weaknesses?
Really it’s the same as above, we’re adventurous, open minded, willing to learn and incorporate new things, and make intimacy a priority. Our weakness is a different sexual drive – but that’s easily overcome.
3. How do you make intimacy a priority in a relationship?
In my marriage I have explicitly stated that I need it daily, and we make it happen. We also compliment each other, are specific in expressing what we find sexy in and what we desire from each other, communicate our fantasies, and approach our connection to each other as a daily priority.
In other relationship(s), I suppose consistent (though not daily) communication, and expressing excitement or desire to see one another.
4. How has your sex life changed in the last five years?
Five years ago I was in a long distance relationship with my husband (though not too far as it was just for training) and I would see him ocassional weekends. In between family obligations, we touched and kissed and fucked as much as possible to tide us over until the next time.
That’s still the same right now, it seems, minus the weekends with longer separations and vaster distances.
What’s different is that now we always incorporate some power or pain play into our sex, as I’m finding that I don’t orgasm without it quite the same. We have a definite power dynamic in our sex life, it’s subtle at times but always present, and natural.
We also have tried polyamory and are currently in an open marriage. I have had two partners in the last five years besides my husband.
5. Has blogging helped your sex life? How?
I’ve written so much about this so many times, in a nutshell: blogging encourages me to read others and their journeys which creates more potential and adventures to pursue, it helps me analyze what makes me tick which helps my lover, it’s created a more open mindedness and honesty towards my sexuality.
Bonus: Has loneliness or emotional hunger ever caused you to “fall in love”?
No, not at all. This is more likely to happen to my husband. For me, I fall in lust pretty regularly, though I don’t pursue it as much as I feel it. I am more likely to use sex as a bandaid to stave off loneliness, and feel myself approaching that urge pretty strongly recently.
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