Feb 122017

Happy Valentine's DaySo I looked up on my own blog “Valentine” to see how I’ve reflected on this over the years. It’s been a mix: happy with photo prompts (pictured here) but my writing shows how I overall view the holiday. In one piece of fiction, I write about how the character breaks up with their partners the day before – which is something I used to do in my youth. In another piece of fiction I wrote about how a character was done being second when they should have been first – sadly something that echoed why I didn’t write anything related to Valentine’s Day last year.

Last year, my husband turned me (and family) away hours before we were to be reunited after months of choosing separation to help with transitions and failed attempts at polyamory. I just recently tweeted about how I haven’t felt the same since, and it’s very true. But even when we were married, I didn’t see him much for Valentine’s Day – the all-too demanding price of being a military spouse.

This year, I was given an idea by a coworker of how to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Mr. Texas would rather have the romantic couple’s night, but he’s on board and supporting me as he does best.

My table is set and beautiful and Texas is going to make a nice dinner. We are raising some teenagers, and two of them are special needs and may not have a relationship for some time. I don’t want anyone to feel alone when there are people around who do love them – and I would not have survived last year if I didn’t have the support of friends and family. So, we embracing Valentine’s Day message of love but directing it at people who matter most – family and those that support you best. I even invited some single relatives.

I’ve already warned the kids that we are going to go around the table and say nice things about each other so they better be prepared (a challenge for one or two, it seems). It’s a day to show appreciation, a day to sit down with each other (though family dinners are rather important to me) and express the positives.Wicked Wednesday
Febraury Photofest

  7 Responses to “Valentine’s Reflection”

  1. What a fantastic idea!

  2. Beautiful touching words :-).

  3. This is a wonderful idea. Expressions of love come in many forms, and idealizing/prioritizing ONLY romantic love on a holiday dedicated to the emotion has always felt off to me. Love In Action is so much more powerful, and your dinner idea encompasses more people and relationship types. Very cool!

  4. I think this is a beautiful and tender idea on how to celebrate Valentine’s Day! I might just steal it from you!

    Rebel xox

  5. This is wonderful! Was it a good evening? I hope so! Also, loving all your February photos – scrolled through them all but you don’t have a ‘like’ button to quickly show appreciation and I’m running out of time for commenting on all! Know though that I’m enjoying them! Xx

  6. Great way to celebrate the day. Also, love that picture! 🙂

  7. great idea, hope it turned out well

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