If you’re new to this blog or new to the world of fetishes in general, let me introduce you to the terms cuckolding and hotwifing. Generally speaking, these two mean the same thing, and that is the act of a married (or taken) woman having sex with a man who is not her partner while her partner is ‘forced’ to watch.
Laypeople may call it adultery with permission of sorts.
You may also run into the term cucking, which means the same as cuckolding. And you may also be curious whether or not Chris and I have tried it.
Yes, as a matter of fact, we have. And yes, it happens to be one of our favorite activities in the bedroom.
After ten years of being together, you come to a point when you want to introduce some variety into your sex life. You love your partner, you trust them completely, mind, body and soul, but you also like to experiment and tease and play with each other.
So, my boyfriend and I have been swinging or sharing partners in many ways for two years now, and it’s an experience I wouldn’t change for the world.
What is Cuckold chat?
Cuckold chatrooms and forums are exactly what you think they are: places for enthusiasts of this kink to find like-minded individuals, and perhaps even arrange sexual play times with them.
To be honest, if there weren’t entire online communities surrounding this fetish, with such friendly people willing to engage, I feel that Chris and I would be having a hard time finding partners for this specific activity. Fortunately, the world wide web is a wonderful place, and we’ve had great success finding people to join us.
However, cuckold chats don’t necessarily have to be only about finding an actual person to have sex with in real life. Plenty of cuckolds and hotwife husbands get off simply from sharing naked pictures and videos of their wives (with permission, of course) for other people to fantasize about or masturbate to. So you can find plenty of nudity even if you’re not actively looking for a sex partner.
My Go-To For Cuckold/Hotwife Chat
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If you’re interested in dipping your toes into this world of new types of pleasure and partner-sharing, then I should start off by mentioning my most favorite place for finding a potential third (or fourth, if that’s your speed) participant, and that is AdultFriendFinder.
AdultFriendFinder is pretty self-explanatory: it is a forum and a chat and a community at large where you can find friends for all sorts of adult activities. It is not focused solely on cuckolding, but it is a great place to look for those who share your kinks.
Registration on AdultFriendFinder is completely free and it takes barely a minute. You don’t need a credit card, only an email, a username, a password, and a short introduction so that people can get to know you a little better.
You can then easily customize your profile by selecting what type of partners you’re looking for, for what purposes, what age range you prefer, do you want then to be local or not, then what you’re like, what your preferences in the bedroom are, and much, much more.
Other than finding partners for your kinky soul, here are some other things you can do on AdultFriendFinders:
- Send virtual gifts
- Watch videos (mostly NSFW)
- Start your own blog
- Watch live streams (also mostly NSFW)
- Join chatrooms
- Join groups
- Watch courses from the Sex Academy (these cost extra)
As you can tell, AdultFriendFinder is an amazing way to connect with other individuals who are looking for the same things you are. I love chatting with other couples and people who are into swinging, and on this site, Chris and I have found countless enthusiasts willing to have fun with us.
I also created this amazing guide to cuckold dating and finding a bull/hotwife, it’s the sites that I use and have had great success on.
The Other Amazing Chatrooms I Use
If for whatever reason AdultFriendFinder doesn’t work for you, here are some others you can consider:
TheCuckoldConsultant is a great resource for cuckolding. Not just in the sense that it offers a way for you to meet partners, but also that it provides so much free stuff for you to educate yourself on. On this site, you will find free articles and e-books, as well as interviews and personal stories from other cuckold-lovers.
There is also the chatroom, for meeting new people and sharing your fantasies and even exposing your wives and girlfriends. For the chatroom on TheCuckoldConsultant, however, you need to sign up, but the sign-up is completely free so you don’t have to worry about your budget at all.
You can also check out this list of cuckold forums I created, it’s a must for any cuck/hotwife.
So Chatzy is a chat site. A general, usually not 18+ chat site. There are hundreds of rooms with hundreds of topics, from TV shows to books to politics to yes, even kinks and fetishes. The one I’m talking about here is created specifically for cuckolds, bulls, and hotwives, and you need to register in order to participate.
Chatzy also offers a special feature. Once you strike up a conversation with someone you like and want to take it somewhere more private, you can make your own chatroom and invite whoever you want. This is a great way to arrange meetings and even entire scenarios you’d like to play through once you get together, without anyone else interfering with your conversation.
CuckoldMarriage is just the right place to find either couples you’d like to swing with or partners you’d like to have sex with your wife (or even husband, seeing as female cuckolds exist and they’re called cuckqueans). It is a mostly safe-for-work site if you don’t venture deeper into the chatroom or forum.
On CuckoldMarriage you can sort through those who take on the dom role in cuckolding, then the submissive husbands, submissive wives, and submissive couples even. Make sure to check out the instructions on how to post and what is okay and what isn’t before you dive in. (Yes, you do need to make a free account in order to join both the chat and the forums.)
FetLife (BDSM Forum for loads of kinks)
FetLife isn’t only for cuckolding. Rather, it is a general BDSM forum that is home to an incredible number of kinks and fans of these kinks. Cuckolding or hotwifing is considered a subset of BDSM, especially the part where the husband is ‘forced’ to watch his wife have sex with another person, so you should feel right at home here.
My boyfriend and I haven’t used this site too much personally. Since we’ve had so much success with AdultFriendFinder and some of the previously mentioned places, we’ve really had no need for it. However, if you’re into extreme fetishes that include cuckolding, don’t hesitate to make a free profile and start looking for people to play with!
Of course, this list wouldn’t be complete without the ever-present Reddit. On this social media platform, you can find pretty much anything, so it comes as no surprise that you can also find partners for cuckolding.
Here are some of the most useful subreddits to check out if you’re interested in this kink:
This subreddit is extremely NSFW, so don’t open it in a public space! They support all types of cuckolds, from swingers to submissive wife fetishists, to cuckqueans and everything else related to adultery. Lots of videos, pictures, and true stories of cuckolding and hotwifing.
A lot tamer in comparison to the previous subreddit, the Cuckold Community is pretty straightforward. These Redditors are looking for couples and/or bulls to satisfy their needs, and you can browse through the personals to find the one that works for you.
Happy Cuckold is not so much a place to find the partner you’re looking for, but a place to share your happy hotwifing experience. Cuckolds post pictures of their wives having sex with bulls, or even only of their wives, asking fellow Redditors what they’d like to do to them. Definitely NSFW.
This subreddit’s content is strictly curated, so make sure you take a look at the guidelines and rules for posting here. Most things related to the hotwife lifestyle go, however, you’re not allowed to post solo pics of your wife or random porn, and you can’t request a hotwife if you’re a single guy. Lovely shots of hotwives getting fucked by bulls make this subreddit not suitable for public places.
This is a place to share your original content, such as pictures and videos. Most things are allowed, as long as they have a good story behind them. Couples are encouraged to talk about their intimate, sexy moments, with a strong focus on swinging and sharing wives as the name of the subreddit suggests.
Similar to some of the previous subreddits, this one is also about that hotwife lifestyle. You don’t have to share stories or pictures and videos if you don’t want to. It is also a welcoming, encouraging community where you can get advice and reassurance about anything you’re not 100% certain of in this type of lifestyle.
Related to our topic of swapping wives and participating in consensual cheating, here is where you need to have a pic of your wife in order to make a post. You can ask for other users to give you explicit pictures of their own wives in return for yours, or you can even arrange for a meet-up, depending on what you (and your wife) are in the mood for.
If you want more Reddit pages, then check out this full cuckold and hotwife sub-reddit post I created.
How To Make Your Chat Experience Better?
Seeing as I’ve laid out some great places to start looking for couples or bulls for your pleasure, it is only fair that I also help you have the best experience ever.
So here are some basics that you need to go over before you first start posting, or replying, in any of these chats or forums:
Learn the Vocab
Throughout this review, you’ve seen me use some terms that might have stumped you. In order to fit in with the cuckold/hotwifing community, it would be best to learn the terminology most commonly used. This will prevent confusion and misunderstandings on both sides.
Here are the essential terms you need to get familiar with:
- Couple – Starting with an easy one, a couple is exactly that: two people who are in a long-term, committed relationship (and/or marriage), who are looking for a third person to help them live out their sexual fantasy.
- Bull – A bull is an outsider, a man who is brought in to fuck the wife or the girlfriend. For true cuckolding, the bull is usually superior to the husband in some way, so that the husband can get off to watching his wife get fucked in ways he can’t provide for her. A bull can also be called a cuckold bull, a swinger bull, or an alpha male, though this last one you may find in other fetishes, too.
- Cuckold – The husband whose wife is having sex with another man (the bull). Cuckolds get turned on from watching or hearing about their wives sleeping with other men, especially if they are inferior to that man.
- Cuckquean – The female version of a cuckold, meaning a wife who enjoys watching her husband having sex with other women.
- Hotwife – The wife who is having sex with another man while her husband is watching. Not the same as cuckquean, so be careful with these two terms.
- Dom – The dom, or dominant partner, is the person who is in charge during a sexual act. They initiate activities, they are in control, and they are the ones who should be obeyed.
- Sub – The sub, or the submissive partner, is the one who is on the receiving end of whatever the dom doles out. Subs get turned on by being humiliated, hurt or degraded in some way, and there can be one or multiple subs in any sexual act.
Know What You Want
Another thing you need to be clear on before you embark on your cuckolding journey is what exactly you are looking for.
Do you want to be the bull? Finding a couple and having fun with the wife while the husband watches?
Or are you already part of a couple who is looking to expand their sexual horizons?
Are you simply an observer, someone who is interested in the cuckold community at an academic level and who enjoys reading stories and perhaps even hearing about people’s experiences first hand?
All of these questions need answering so that there’s no confusion down the road. Chatting and meeting new people is part of the cuckold lifestyle, just make sure you’re clear on what you’re there for.
And it’s totally fine if you change your mind at some point! If you were merely a spectator but suddenly decided you wanted to be the bull, then go for it! In my personal experience, these types of communities are nothing if not accepting and welcoming, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it out.
Move to Private
Finally, if your goal is to find a suitable partner or a couple for your fantasies, once you have a rapport going on, it would be best to move to some type of a private chat. No one else needs to see or be involved in you hashing out details and further building your relationship.
Move over to Skype or create your own chatroom (which you can do on Chatzy) to talk about your likes and dislikes and what you all expect to happen during this meeting.
This is an incredibly important step: communication. Be clear on what your desires are, and don’t insist on anything the other person (or people) is uncomfortable with. If you can’t come to an agreement, simply cancel the meet-up and look for someone else.
Cuckolding and hotwifing is meant to be fun! As with all sexual things, the end goal is for everyone to be satisfied with the encounter, and the only way to do that is to work out the finer points of what’s okay and what isn’t.
How To Strike Up Conversation On These Sex Forums
If you’re new here, then it might sound daunting to just log into a chatroom or a forum and start talking to people. Yet that’s exactly what you should do!
Chris and I are generally open-minded, uninhibited people, and we found that posting and talking to people online is much, much easier and more relaxing than in real life. So here are a couple of basic tips to get you noticed and to get other people warming up to you:
Add a profile pic
The picture doesn’t necessarily have to be of you or anyone you know. It can be a landscape, an animal, a sex toy, whatever you like and find suitable. Having a profile pic instead of a generic gray icon instantly makes you more approachable to other users.
It’s easier said than done, but try not to be too self-conscious. It’s okay to be nervous, and it’s okay to ask for advice when you’re nervous. When you’re posting on forums or replying in chats, try and keep a lighthearted tone. Be honest. People appreciate honesty in all corners of the web, even on fetish sites.
I cannot stress this enough: be kind, be kind, be kind. Yes, you’re talking about sexual things and yes, some vulgarity and dirty talk are expected but never venture into mean territory. (Unless you’re roleplaying humiliation or something, which is a whole different beast.) Be kind to others and never forget that these are real people just like you who are sitting at their computers and looking to connect over this kink they have.
Comment on other people’s posts
Don’t make it all about you. You are absolutely encouraged to post your stories and pictures and experiences, but in order to build meaningful connections, don’t neglect other users either. Read their stories, comment on their pictures, and you’ll see how easy it is to meet someone you hit it off with almost right away.
How To Find The Chatroom That’s Right For You
In this day and age, getting overwhelmed by choice is a real problem. It is definitely a first-world problem, but a problem nonetheless. You don’t have only one or two outlets for something you like, but dozens, if not hundreds of them, and it may take a while before you find what you’re most comfortable with.
At the start of this review, I have highlighted my favorite place for finding sexual partners for cuckolding, which is AdultFriendFinder. This site works for my boyfriend and me on so many levels, but it doesn’t have to mean it’ll work for you too.
So, out of all the other choices I presented you with, how do you choose the right one?
The simple answer is: you don’t.
You don’t have to burden yourself with getting it right on the first go. If you find that you don’t like a place, for whatever reason, whether it’s the format of the site or the people or the rules or the content, you can always delete your account and move on. That’s the beauty of the internet, after all.
However, in order to make sure that you are looking at the right places, try these tips:
- Choose the right format (chat or forum or Reddit)
- Read through the posting instructions and guidelines
- Read through some of the existing posts and chats
- Evaluate if this place will provide you with what you need
- If in doubt: ask the moderators!
With all of that being said, between my advice on how to communicate with others and this shortlist of how to determine whether or not the forum is right for you, you should have no problem starting your cuckold adventure.
So scroll back up to any of the sites I suggested, click on the one you like the sound of the best, and fulfill all of your wildest fantasies as soon as possible!