Sites Like Ashley Madison (Discreet Dating)

We see Ashley Madison out there in the open a heck of a lot and because of how much we see her pop up you wouldn’t be wrong for thinking that this was the only site of its kind but if you’re here you know that it’s actually not, in fact, you can find a plethora of sites just like it at your fingertips and I am here to show you the best, all tried and tested by me.

If you read our blog you will know the thorough and vigorous testing that goes into finding the perfect sites for what you’re looking for and these below are no exception. Click through, read my experience and enjoy a whole new world that awaits you away from Ashley Madison.

Full List Of Sites Like Ashley Madison

List of the sites like Ashley Madison:

  1. Adult Friend Finder
  2. Victoria Milan
  4. Marital Affair
  5. Heated Affairs
  6. Hush Affairs
  7. Illicit Encounters
  8. Fuckbook
  9. Gleeden
  11. Fetlife
  12. Reddit
  13. JerkMate

Now let’s take a deeper look at each of these sites.

1. Adult Friend Finder

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AFF is quite frankly amazing. It’s a busy site with people constantly online, where you can meet free-loving singles and even couples. People on AFF are friendly, open, and seriously horny. It’s ideal for hookups, casual dating, and even swinging!

It’s an environment that keeps on giving. Stay discreet and just browse the thousands of users’ photos and profiles or go all out and find new people to hook up with who are nearby. It’s certainly one of our favorite discreet hookup sites.

2. Victoria Milan

Victoria Milan website

Victoria Milan values discretion. It’s designed for those looking for casual sex and even for those who may want to have an affair. There are tools for you to increase your anonymity online and they are serious about security. There are lots of users online looking for the same things as you so things are never boring. 

Victoria Milan prides itself on being authentic, safe, and a place where you can be honest. The sign-up process is really straightforward and you can get started instantly. Something I really liked was the anonymity tools, they were a nice touch and something I think a lot of dating sites should look into. 

3. SeekingArrangements

Seeking arrangements website

This site is possibly as well-known as Ashley Madison. It’s a place for sugar daddies to meet sugar babies, usually, a sugar daddy is more successful and older than their sugar baby and both parties have certain desires and needs and with this arrangement, they can provide for one another in whatever way that may be. 

I found this site to have a lot of users, which is a good sign. There is plenty of men and women looking for some fun, some have exceptional requirements and I would be cautious of time wasters but it’s pretty easy to scope these people out. 

4. Marital Affair

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Made for the curious, this site is for married and singletons wanting to embark on something new and exciting. Discretion is a big priority for Marital affair and they do what they can to keep everything discreet and secure. You can meet people looking for sex and adventure or just find someone to talk to who understands your kinks and fantasies. 

It’s not as popular as some of the other sites mentioned so far but you do get what you are looking for when joining. There are lots of people on this site looking for some fun and a thrill, married and single.

5. Heated Affairs

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Millions of members adorn this sultry website. Those people are all looking for casual hookups, married dating, and even affairs. You can browse through steamy photos, profiles, and videos of other members and enjoy yourself knowing you are amongst like-minded horny individuals. You can see more sites like heated affairs here.

There are lots of features on this dating site which I really enjoyed. It’s hassle-free to use and you will find lots of people ready to enjoy themselves, knowing exactly what they want from their encounters. 

6. Hush Affairs

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Inconspicuous and inviting you will find a haven here for those of us looking for an online or even an offline affair. They prioritize your anonymity and appreciate the need for subtleness when it comes to such a matter. Signing up is also really quick which I always appreciate. 

This site is great, easy to navigate, easy to use, and filled with lots of real people. The only downside I found was the verification wasn’t as thorough as some other processes I have been put through so you may come up against some fake profiles every now and again but that’s to be expected. 

7. Illicit Encounters

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For my UK readers or those of you heading to the UK on vacation this site has been around for a long time, it’s well established and has a very open-minded and vibrant community. Because of its great reputation, people trust this website and it’s ideal for the naughty cheating and hook-up loving brits out there.

The downside is it’s a UK-based platform so you either have to live there or be heading there to really benefit. However, when flirting and just browsing it’s a must-try, married dating couldn’t be easier on it.

8. Fuckbook

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If you’re looking for people who understand your interests and desires, fuckbook is a great platform for just that. It’s casual dating, it’s open-minded and you will find similarities to Facebook. You can create a great community of people who are there all for the same reasons as you. 

It’s free to sign-up, it’s easy to use and it comes with features such as a cam site, a local hookup element, and more flirtatious dating aspects than you could dream of. 

9. Gleeden


Made by women, this dating site focuses on married individuals who are looking for some extramarital fun. You don’t have to be married to join but it does help as it is what a lot of people on there are searching for. It’s discreet, high-quality, and has those wonderful features I love that protect your anonymity. 

Gleeden is sexy, well-established, and made with a purpose. It gives people the opportunity to do things they have always wanted too and I found everyone on there to be respectful and understanding. 



I already have a full review on Alt if you want some more details on this unconventional dating site. It’s for those of us who enjoy BDSM and other alternative sexual practices. It’s one of our favorite sites and although cheating isn’t its main focus, you will fit right in amongst the kinksters who want to help you fulfill your kinky fantasy.

Designed for the kinky among us, is where me and my girlfriend Tiffany frequent a lot. There is something for absolutely everyone on this site and you will never be disappointed. 

11. Fetlife

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This was my unfiltered experience on Fetlife and I adored it. It’s made for those interested in fulfilling sexual fantasies, kinks, meeting new people, sharing photos and so much more. You will find thousands of people who are into the cheating kink and fantasy so you will never find yourself bored on there. 

There are a lot of weird and wonderful people on Fetlife and it won’t take you long to find your bunch. The networking culture for dating, flirting, sexting, and hooking up is so simple on this site and one not to be missed. 

12. Reddit

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Reddit is an undiscovered charm if you want to have an affair. You can find local subreddits to you with people actively looking for sex, you can browse and live vicariously through those who have done it and you can put yourself out there to find someone who understands what you need. 

Although not conventionally a dating site there are lots of subreddits for you to browse through and get involved in, here are just some of my favorite dating subreddit’s:

Make sure to also check out my favorite Gone Wild Subreddits

Wild Card: Jerk Mate

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It’s not an affair dating site but it gets you off like nothing you ever have done before. With hundreds of cams to choose from you can enjoy so many different types of people at the end of your fingertips without having to step foot outside of your door. I did a whole Review on Jerkmate which I highly recommend reading. 

You do have to pay but what you get is so worth the money. You get a model devoted to your needs, willing to help you get off in any way you can. Which if you aren’t ready for a full-blown affair may be a great way to get your kicks without ever leaving your home. 

Which Site Do I Use The Most? 

That is up to you. My personal favorite for cheating and the whole affair fantasy is Adult friend finder, Fetlife, Jerkmate, and Victoria Milan. All have their benefits and their cons but overall they provide you with what they offer and allow you to live out and explore your desires.

Let me know your favorite in the comments down below, I love hearing from you!

I set this site up with my girlfriend to review adult content and dating sites. We take our time and really test everything we talk about. We have an open relationship which pushed us to test a lot of these amazing sites.

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